The Downward Slope

It's been interesting being pregnant, it seems that everyone around me has changed since I got pregnant.....except me and Brian. Since I've been in Arizona I haven't stopped doing stuff and I've been busy every day. It's has been a roller coaster, I have loved seeing everybody, but like I said it seems everyone changes when you are pregnant. My aunt saw me yesterday, and being as I hate people rubbing my stomach I had placed my arms over my stomach....but she didn't get it and still attempted to rub the belly. My dad told her not to, but she said everyone does it, and that once you are pregnant you are public property, and once the baby is born the baby is public property. This is what perplexes me, why do people all of the sudden assume because you are pregnant you are "public property"? Just about every woman I know has said how much she disliked people treating her like she was public property - so why do so many women, who have gone through this, then view me and the baby as public property? Pregnancy is the time when you feel like a hippo, have a whirlwind of hormones and emotions, and yet people seem to pray on all that and make it worse - and they all went through it! I guess I don't understand, I've never had the fascination with babies that other people seem to have, sure babies are cute, but I guess I've never viewed them as public property or have felt like I had any right to touch mother or baby without the expressed opinion of the mother - then again, that's just how my mother raised me.
Speaking of, my mother has been great, only a few problems have occured since I have moved in, but that is bound to happen when you move back in with your parents but really want to be with your husband. My mom has been supportive of the decisions Brian and I have made - even when other people don't understand. One of her friends said something about disagreeing with a decision Brian and I had made and she asked mom if she disagreed as well, and if she did why didn't she say something to me because after all it is HER grandchild. My mom looked at her friend and said "Actually it is my daughter's child, and I am not part of the relationship that is between her, Brian, and God, therefore it's none of my business unless they are violating that covenant relationship. Whether I agree with their decisions or not holds no bearing of whether it is the right choice that God is leading them to." I wish more people could be like my mom in this sense, she really hasn't tried to be controlling, and even when she doesn't agree she realizes that her discomfort is only stemmed from her instinct to have things her way. After all we all have that instinct, so when someone does something we wouldn't do we view it as wrong, when sometimes we shouldn't. She has been very reassuring which is nice, and so have Brian's grandparents the French's - I enjoy visitng with them, they lift my spirits and are so very understanding and caring. When older generations do things that upset the younger generations we blame it on "being set in their ways" but that isn't them at all, they seem to try and understand everyone around them, it seems they are fine with new things and different ideas, which has made me really comfortable when with them.
I should say that Brian is doing well, I talk to him often, although not for very long. He is usually pretty busy and is determined to achieve high scores while at school. I will see him soon, so that is exciting for us. Hopefully he will be able to get emergency leave once the baby comes, and since he will be here and if he has enough leave we have talked about him helping me drive out to be with him. It seems like the best solution, as I am most comfortable with him, and I will feel very relaxed and at ease. He has been amazing, even from so far away, he listens to every anxiety I have and reassures me that I am in fact not public property, that I have every right to be protective of myself and the baby. Once he even texted me saying I was the property of God and I can tell everyone to bug off - lol.
I suppose there isn't much news really - 10 weeks left before the baby is due, I have a ton of repacking to do, and two more seminars in school before I am finished. Brian is busy and happy and truly likes the AirForce, he is on the drill team and will be moving from Mississippi to Texas in July. So that's the update - hope everyone is doing well!!!